How Childhood Messages Shape Your Inner Critic and Four Ways to Break Free
By: The Centre for Effective Living
It’s almost a cliché that therapists want to ask about your childhood. But have you ever wondered why we’re so interested?
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People Pleasing: The Positive Side of Agreeableness and Ways To Manage It
By: Rinet Van Lill
The habit of prioritising others’ needs over your own is often misunderstood as purely negative — as if it only means saying yes too often or avoiding disagreement at all costs.
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Value-Based Decision-Making: 5 Tips for Making Tough Decisions Mindfully
By: Michelle Nortje
Clients often come to therapy struggling with the weight of decisions. I’ve heard comments like, “What if I make the wrong choice?”, “I’m so tired of making decisions every day!”, or “There are just too many options, how can I possibly decide?”
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Screens and Parenting: Insights From ‘The Anxious Generation’
By: Michelle Nortje
Jonathan Haidt’s The Anxious Generation is a interesting exploration of the modern mental health crisis among young people. Read more
You Can’t Have It All (At Once): How to Prioritise In Life
By: Rinet Van Lill
Many of us grew up believing a successful life means having it all: a fulfilling career, close relationships, personal growth, hobbies, and a healthy lifestyle — all effortlessly balanced.
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Sleep Hygiene: 4 Tips and The Role of Acceptance
By: Thomas Cheeseman
Sleep hygiene is a term that I hear thrown around regularly. But what is sleep hygiene, and what are four elements that support sleep?
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The Liking Gap? Why People Like You More Than You Think.
By: Johanna McCarthy
Recently, a new term has popped up in the psychology social media space: the liking gap. I’m always a bit wary of psychological concepts gaining traction on social media, as they’re often simplified to fit into bite-sized content aimed at generating views.
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How To Let Go of Resentment: The Psychology of Forgiveness
By: Lauren Chee
How to let go of resentment is a question many people struggle with, especially when faced with deep emotional pain. The psychology of forgiveness is a growing field of research, offering hope to those who want to move forward without bitterness.
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5 Ways to Fight Well and Turn Conflict Into Connection
By: The Centre for Effective Living
A common myth about relationships is that not fighting is a good sign. Although not fighting may sound ideal, peaceful, easy, and drama-free, in reality, the absence of conflict can sometimes signal emotional distance, avoidance, or unspoken resentment. Read more
Perspective-Building: How to Start Practising Mental and Emotional Flexibility
By: Michelle Nortje
I recently listened to a podcast by Being Well about changing our perspectives and was reminded about what a meaningful topic this is. Read more